"Red Flags..."

Resilience is one thing, but putting up with abusive and unloving behaviour is another.

Don't do it.
Keep vigilant.
Protect yourself.
Listen to trusted people who have your back and your heart.
Do something about the red flags.
Challenge what causes them, and if there is no change then call it out or walk away.

NOTHING justifies you staying in any relationship where you are not appreciated, loved and respected, where you are not free to love and be loved, to make mistakes and grow and learn from them.

That goes for romance, family, friends, employment, spiritual relationships.

And that includes any deity that does not allow you to be you (as long as that manifests itself in mutual care and flourishing for all those you meet).

BEWARE OF THE RED FLAGS!